Topic: Anger management

Fashion,Outfit,personal,8 August 2018

My mum always taught me that hate is a strong word that it shouldn’t be used. Preferably never. However, hate is actually a word that explains the strength of emotion quite well. After almost a lifetime of non-hating, I’ve decided to take that word back into my vocabulary, but only use it where it belongs. I hate hate. That’s pretty much it.

I get very little hate in my channels, but I see it everywhere and I often see hateful comments embedded into some kind of try to make it a compliment. It doesn’t work that way, I’m sorry. It makes me extremely angry and sad, especially when it comes from grown up people who should know better. I have much more empathy for undeveloped children with anger in their veins or personal issues. Everyone makes mistakes and kids who bully will probably suffer themselves when they realize what they’ve done, later. Us adults we are responsible for our children; therefore, we need to lead by good example and get involved.

Hate to me means speaking, writing or acting to purposely harm other people. It’s not acceptable, whether it’s online or in person. What I find even worse, is that some people try to make hate and bullying acceptable by calling it constructive criticism. Criticism can be very constructive and developing yes, but let’s face it, it never is unless it comes from someone with honestly good intentions and from someone who knows the person on a personal level. We never know someone based on their digital content, and just because someone wants to expose some parts of their lives, doesn’t give anyone the right to have a say in anything. Nothing. Being a public person does not give anyone the right to bully!!! The only rights we have is to unfollow or follow. Follow if you want to support, unfollow if that person gives you even the slightest feeling of negativity, anger or irritation. It’s extremely simple actually.

I personally think, that no one should allow hateful comments on their channels. No one owes anyone to prove to be” thick skinned” and transparent. I think it’s accepting bullying. I delete every single hateful, mean and hurtful comment I get, since I don’t allow that way of speaking towards anyone. Not towards me or any human being. All of us, will for sure get enough criticism from the people we have around us and that should be enough. So, with this text I hope to inspire you to draw the line for yourself and your children. There is nothing cool about proving to be able to take hate. It’s always hurtful and so it should be. Sensitivity, empathy and being acceptable and in touch with our feelings is extremely fragile and precious. Let’s not try to take that away. Peace.

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  • Elinakoo

    10+ 10+ <3
    You are SO right! I've always thought it should be so simple.

  • Drenna

    Kiitos tästä postauksesta Sofia, kirjoitit hienosti erittäin tärkeästä aiheesta!
    Saisinko kysyä sinulta päivittäisestä ruokavaliostasi sekä liikuntatottumuksistasi, esim. miten ja mitä syöt yleensä päivän aikana ja miten ja kuinka usein yleensä liikut? Ruokavaliollasi on varmasti suuri vaikutus siihen että niin hyvinvoivalta ja hehkuvalta!

    • Sofia Ruutu

      Hei! Joo, voisin kirjoittaa siitä enemmän, mutta syön ihan normaalisti ja kaikkea. Käyn joogassa pari kertaa viikossa ja kävelen aina joka paikkaan. That’s about it :)

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