My top 6 tips on how to deal with stress

Fashion,personal,9 March 2020

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Feeling so inspired today, because I met up with a friend of mine who is here for a quick visit from Amsterdam. I meet her a few times a year and we already have a little routine we repeat. We lunch at the same spot while we jump straight into those” taboo” topics. No polite small talks. I LOVE that! We have a meaningful history together, filled with both happy, but also very sad moments. We’ve shared a lot, especially when we skipped school together for weeks when her mum passed away way too early in life. I’ll always carry that very special time with me.

A couple of days ago I mentioned that I’m feeling very stressed at the moment and most of all exhausted. I also mention that I’ve set a deadline for myself for feeling this way. A deadline of “when not to be so exhausted and stressed”. No, I can’t control my feelings I know that, but I can set up a deadline for myself for when to start prioritizing differently. I refuse to accept feeling stressed constantly if there are things I can do to change it. Temporary stress is acceptable but taking on more than I can handle for long periods is not.

I know my priorities has led me to this point of exhaustion, therefore I’m going to act differently starting today. Today, because I had my final exam at school which has put a lot of extra pressure on me. By Friday, I’m hoping to have lowered my pulse a lot and feel better. I need to make this conscious decision, otherwise I’ll just fill the “empty” spot with other stressful things.

This long venting story is just the beginning of what lead me to share my ways to destress and find mindfulness in stressful times in life. We talked about this today with my friend. Hence the idea to share my top 6 list on how to reduce stress under stressful circumstances:

1. Be mindful in your everyday chores and tasks. Take a long hot shower in the evening, cook with love, do the dishes while listening to music, give yourself a manicure and do that 10-step skin routine morning and night. This is my best tip, because it is what I call “active mindfulness”. I get to complete my to-do’s while I take time for myself to think, feel and be present.

2. I suck at breathing to be honest, but no I’m really giving it a try. Just five long breaths as a start. I can’t do a 15-minute meditation twice a day just yet. I need more realistic goals as a start, otherwise I know I won’t do it.

3. Watch an easy-going series. This is actually really helpful for me, because it keeps me away from work on all devices! All I have to do is find a good mood series and force myself to watch one episode every evening before I go to bed.

4. Talking it out. Long phone calls or even better evening walk with a friend helps me to destress and reduce anxiety and it improves my sleep a lot! Talking through the day releases pressure and helps me come to peace more easily.

5. Eat in company. If possible, I love sharing a little night snack in the kitchen with my husband. We rarely have the chance but when we do, we both enjoy it a lot.

6. Say no! I’ve become so much better at saying no (without feeling the need to explain myself) but can be even more strict. I rarely attend any events just for fun, say no to a glass of wine constantly and say no to taking a lunch with friends when I know I really need to work.

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How to make your mornings successful… With kids!

Uncategorized,8 January 2020

How difficult can it be to just type some words? Very, it appears. Maybe because I feel like I talk way too much about myself in all my channels combined. It feels like I’m out of words when I log in here.

Since I don’t have much to tell you about the past two weeks that I’ve been more or less alone with our children, I’m taking this opportunity to tell you about my super empowering morning! It is so often that I drop off our children feeling like I’m not enough and like the morning was a big failure, therefore I want to embrace this wonderful morning we had today.

Our mornings are usually quite stressful and hectic like I imagine mornings are for most families with small children. It doesn’t really matter what time we need to be somewhere, but just the fact that we need to be somewhere and follow our regular routine is enough to get the pulse up. Today however, I sailed through our morning with ease, and that my friends, is something to celebrate. Our mornings have become much better ever since I’ve made a few simple changes. During weekdays, I have made a rule that our kids can’t watch tv in the morning and we eat oatmeal for breakfast. These two easy rules have made a huge difference!

So today, I managed to shower, get ready, blow-dry AND style my hair, play with the kids, hold them, prepare for work and get the kids ready just in time without any kind of conflict. Everyone brushed their teeth for 2 minutes and my daughter even changed her outfit once. No raisin my voice, solving of arguments or having to rush them. Mornings like these really make me feel super empowered and leave me with good energy for the entire day. So, in case you welcome some easiness into your mornings, here are my best tips:

1.No screen time

2. Same breakfast every weekday. Then, go nuts in the weekends with crispy waffles, omelets and smoothies ;).

3. Dress the kids before breakfast. And oh, I let my children choose what they wear as long as it’s weather and situation appropriate, so no pajamas or role-play outfits :).

4. Check the weather and place the outerwear ready.

5. Last but least, be a time pessimist. Give yourself more time than you actually need, because with kids… You get the point, right?