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May today be a better day

Fashion,Health,personal,20 August 2018

I couldn’t get out of bed this morning. I just couldn’t. I did my morning rituals with he kids as usual, but I was still sleeping inside my head. As soon as I got the chance, I took a one-hour nap. I can’t stand this feeling. Although, I know it’s my headache medication that makes me feel this drained.

I believe in the power of the mind, therefore I decided to do everything I can to switch this day around and the energy I woke up with today.

When I feel down in one way or another I try to remind myself of who I usually am. What kind of thoughts I usually think, how I act, how I tackle difficulties, what affect me and what not. Then I try to be like that. I try to mimic my usual self to trick myself into a more positive minded and better me.

People. The right kind of people is the best medication for a grey mood. People who inspire, support and cheer for you. Today for example, is a day when all I’d like to do is to be alone. Instead, I opened my calendar and decided to check off my most important work tasks of the week together with people I love working with. I feel energized just of the thought of it!

Stick to your routine. Get up, shower, eat what you usually eat and try to find your way back on track regarding everything. Pretend like it’s a totally normal day and help your thoughts back to where you want them to be when they try to escape.

This being said, being in a different mood than the most happy and glorious self is totally normal and fine, but sometimes we don’t have the opportunity to stop and shut down. Especially not us who have children. This doesn’t mean we should ignore our feelings but try to use the power of our own mind to turn our day around and be more positive- for our own best.

Pictures by Janita Autio

Topic: Anger management

Fashion,Outfit,personal,8 August 2018

My mum always taught me that hate is a strong word that it shouldn’t be used. Preferably never. However, hate is actually a word that explains the strength of emotion quite well. After almost a lifetime of non-hating, I’ve decided to take that word back into my vocabulary, but only use it where it belongs. I hate hate. That’s pretty much it.

I get very little hate in my channels, but I see it everywhere and I often see hateful comments embedded into some kind of try to make it a compliment. It doesn’t work that way, I’m sorry. It makes me extremely angry and sad, especially when it comes from grown up people who should know better. I have much more empathy for undeveloped children with anger in their veins or personal issues. Everyone makes mistakes and kids who bully will probably suffer themselves when they realize what they’ve done, later. Us adults we are responsible for our children; therefore, we need to lead by good example and get involved.

Hate to me means speaking, writing or acting to purposely harm other people. It’s not acceptable, whether it’s online or in person. What I find even worse, is that some people try to make hate and bullying acceptable by calling it constructive criticism. Criticism can be very constructive and developing yes, but let’s face it, it never is unless it comes from someone with honestly good intentions and from someone who knows the person on a personal level. We never know someone based on their digital content, and just because someone wants to expose some parts of their lives, doesn’t give anyone the right to have a say in anything. Nothing. Being a public person does not give anyone the right to bully!!! The only rights we have is to unfollow or follow. Follow if you want to support, unfollow if that person gives you even the slightest feeling of negativity, anger or irritation. It’s extremely simple actually.

I personally think, that no one should allow hateful comments on their channels. No one owes anyone to prove to be” thick skinned” and transparent. I think it’s accepting bullying. I delete every single hateful, mean and hurtful comment I get, since I don’t allow that way of speaking towards anyone. Not towards me or any human being. All of us, will for sure get enough criticism from the people we have around us and that should be enough. So, with this text I hope to inspire you to draw the line for yourself and your children. There is nothing cool about proving to be able to take hate. It’s always hurtful and so it should be. Sensitivity, empathy and being acceptable and in touch with our feelings is extremely fragile and precious. Let’s not try to take that away. Peace.

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