personal

Topic: Anger management

Fashion,Outfit,personal,8 August 2018

My mum always taught me that hate is a strong word that it shouldn’t be used. Preferably never. However, hate is actually a word that explains the strength of emotion quite well. After almost a lifetime of non-hating, I’ve decided to take that word back into my vocabulary, but only use it where it belongs. I hate hate. That’s pretty much it.

I get very little hate in my channels, but I see it everywhere and I often see hateful comments embedded into some kind of try to make it a compliment. It doesn’t work that way, I’m sorry. It makes me extremely angry and sad, especially when it comes from grown up people who should know better. I have much more empathy for undeveloped children with anger in their veins or personal issues. Everyone makes mistakes and kids who bully will probably suffer themselves when they realize what they’ve done, later. Us adults we are responsible for our children; therefore, we need to lead by good example and get involved.

Hate to me means speaking, writing or acting to purposely harm other people. It’s not acceptable, whether it’s online or in person. What I find even worse, is that some people try to make hate and bullying acceptable by calling it constructive criticism. Criticism can be very constructive and developing yes, but let’s face it, it never is unless it comes from someone with honestly good intentions and from someone who knows the person on a personal level. We never know someone based on their digital content, and just because someone wants to expose some parts of their lives, doesn’t give anyone the right to have a say in anything. Nothing. Being a public person does not give anyone the right to bully!!! The only rights we have is to unfollow or follow. Follow if you want to support, unfollow if that person gives you even the slightest feeling of negativity, anger or irritation. It’s extremely simple actually.

I personally think, that no one should allow hateful comments on their channels. No one owes anyone to prove to be” thick skinned” and transparent. I think it’s accepting bullying. I delete every single hateful, mean and hurtful comment I get, since I don’t allow that way of speaking towards anyone. Not towards me or any human being. All of us, will for sure get enough criticism from the people we have around us and that should be enough. So, with this text I hope to inspire you to draw the line for yourself and your children. There is nothing cool about proving to be able to take hate. It’s always hurtful and so it should be. Sensitivity, empathy and being acceptable and in touch with our feelings is extremely fragile and precious. Let’s not try to take that away. Peace.

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#tomyteenageself

personal,Travel,5 June 2018
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Dear Sofia,

You are good enough and you deserve just as much as everyone else does. Don’t carry so many secrets alone. Talk and most importantly- speak up! However, trust me, you will learn along the way to respect yourself and set your own standards and limits. You will also change a lot, although you’ve already seen the world, been on your own and experienced more than most of your friends.

Your bad patterns will end by accident. You can’t take credit for that! It’s out of your control. This is your changing point when you finally start accepting happiness. You will even make happiness, positivity and goodness your religion and trademark! It was a smart choice you made back then. Thank you.

I have no advice to give you, because every phase you go through will be needed to get right here, but you aren’t done and you never will be. I just hope that you would dare to trust that no asset is better or stronger than the other. It’s what you do with it. You just have to open up your eyes for your own strengths and recognize your weaknesses. Recognition is enough, because you can work on every weakness you have and develop. All you need is the will and you have lots of that even though you think you’re weak.

Bodily “flaws” however, don’t put any energy into those. They will change form, but they will follow you wherever you go year after year. So, don’t give them any attention, but let them live. They make you much more lovable.

And if I may say, some things just don’t flatter you. Don’t judge others, quiet yourself whenever you don’t have something good to say and don’t try to fit in if you have a feeling you don’t.

Eventually, when you finally realize what you want, you will realize you got everything you ever wanted.

With love,

Sofia