10 years from now

Health,19 September 2018

Do you believe in making plans? I’m quite unsure myself because it sometimes gives me anxiety or at least pressure, but last week I found myself in a situation that made me re-think.

On Sunday morning, I enjoyed a 5-hour brunch with two friends of mine and all of a sudden, they threw out the idea to share our 10-year plans. As I never think so far ahead, I didn’t have any thoughts ready to share, therefore I closed my eyes for a second and tried to vision myself 10 years ahead from now. It’s scarier than you’d think. Especially for someone like me so afraid to let myself down and fail in life.

It was very inspiring and interesting to listen to my friends. It made me understand them much better and where they’re at on that journey. I also understood myself better. I’m happy where I’m at, but I want to grow and be more involved with the organizations I collaborate with. Also, what I realized was that I see much more happening in my private life. I want to arrange more dinners, be involved with my children’s hobbies and spend more time on myself, doing things I love. I love work, but I’m so happy with where I am right now, so I don’t find work to be my main focus area.

If you’ve read any self-help books lately, you might have noticed a strong trend to reflect and write future plans. If that feels difficult, do what we did and spontaneously share dreams and goals with someone you feel safe and comfortable with. Just by saying them out loud is enough. Or at least it was for me. When you put words on it, it becomes more tangible and clearer.

Do you know how you want your life to look like 10 years from now?

Pictures by Janita Autio

Find your balance

Health,4 September 2018

I often get questions about how I stay in shape, what I eat, how often and how much I eat along the day. I also get questions about my height and weight. When I gave my followers the opportunity to ask me anything on Instagram a couple weeks back, these questions regarding weight control kept popping up. In this post, I want to explain myself a bit on why I simply can’t answer these questions.

I never answer any questions about my weight, body size or what I eat in a week because I feel I have a responsibility.  It’s not because I want to keep this information from you, but because there is absolutely no point of sharing this information. I am me and you are you. One person is unique. There is only one of me and only one of you, therefore we all differ. That’s the best thing about the humankind I think, but it’s also rather tricky. We never know exactly what others think or how they function, but we can try to learn and understand, but we can’t copy and paste.

Just because one way of living works or doesn’t work for me, it doesn’t mean another person experiences it the same. I don’t want anyone to try to mimic me since I’m unsure of how that person will react. I try to eat food that makes me feel good and that I like. There is no one way fits all. If there was, I’d love to know what that is since I guess we all just try to do the right thing- for us. If I would tell you exactly what I ate today or share a one-week food diary it would mean nothing, because every day, week, month and year is different, and every person is different. We all react differently, feel differently and live different lives. I’d never want anyone to eat something that doesn’t work for them because of me, and I’d never want anyone to feel bad about how they roll because of me. I’m just doing what I can to feel good and I can only advice you to do the same for you.

There are so many people struggling with weight and eating in general. So, I don’t think sharing weight control tips over the internet is such a good idea anymore. I believe in individuality and trying to achieve health. Both mentally and then physically. No one can tell if someone is healthy based on social media. If you have problems with your weight or issues around food, my advice is to take it seriously and seek professional help. Unhealthy is unhealthy. Every illness should be taken seriously, and no illness is more shameful than the other. I really wish everyone could realize that. Illness is out of our control, but we can all do our best and ask for help if we need it.

If you don’t have a problem, my suggestion is you continue doing your thing, because that is what we all try to achieve, right? A healthy body and mind. It’s a balance to cherish if you have it. Try to accept that unless you are unhealthy (aka ill) losing our gaining a kilo here and there won’t make us any happier. However, there is absolutely no shame in wanting to be the best version of yourself, but don’t expect happiness to come as a bonus.  

Pictures by Janita Autio