Soon thirty and fabulous! I’m turning thirty in January and it has got me thinking of how ready I am to leave the twenties behind. I’ve actually felt like I belong in the thirty box for a while already. Not because I’ve matured so much, but because I’ve been on a journey with myself that has changed me from who I identify myself with as a twenty-year-old. I’m ready to turn the page and begin a new chapter still cherishing and grateful for all the chapters behind me. After all, the twenties brought me a whole new meaning to my life becoming a mother, twice.
My personal journey has taught me a lot about life. I’ve become much more empathic, less judgmental, strong and sensitive at the same time, but most of all I’ve learned incredibly much about myself. For example, I’ve learned that I don’t have to bother trying to defy myself because I don’t know how. I as a person change from year to year, every day and through every phase I go through. That is me and I even surprise myself at times and that’s ok. One day I like one thing, but the next day the situation might be the opposite. Other people influence me and time, happenings and situations teach me. The most important thing is to stay curious and allow myself to change, develop and learn.
What I have learned to love about myself in the past few years is that I dare to speak up more both for myself, others and my children. I dare to be weak, but also tough in intimidating or demanding situations. I’ve also learned to draw my own limits both when it comes to relationships and me pushing myself. Aging has done me good even though there have been tougher times as well along the the way.
Style wise, I’ve learned to allow myself to experiment freely. The sky is the limit and dressing should always be inspiring and fun if that’s something that brings you energy. I really want to allow also my children to play and express themselves through how they dress, hence it is and always have been important to me.
Mostly, age has changed the way I dress in one way: I refuse to be uncomfortable. I’d rather go naked than wear something itchy, cold or squeeze myself into uncomfortable jeans like I used to in my early twenties. Do you remember laying on the floor in the fitting room or going a size down because the sales person told you shouldn’t be able to zip them up? I will never return to that no matter what the fashion police says.
Luckily, I have other options I can wear and feel good in. Tights worn under a dress or skirt has been my uniform for years. Works every time and at every age, even right after Christmas ;). This will be my tip going into January: Instead of buying yourself another gym membership to add anxiety and stress to your life- buy yourself a nice selection of comfortable, forgiving, stretchy and good looking tights that makes you feel good.
jacket and dress hm// belt twinset// tights norlyn// boots marzio//bag chanel
Pictures by Juuli Rönkä